Why have you been unlucky lately? The most powerful talisman for good luck and money

Date: 24.09.2019

Major failures have quite understandable reasons that have long been sorted out in psychology. It depends only on the personal qualities of a person how correctly he knows how to choose goals and ways to achieve them, how correctly he builds personal relationships and how he evaluates himself. Unjustified are reliable and plans are not a failure, these are the consequences of specific mistakes and invaluable life experience. And what to do if you are not lucky all the time and in everything? What do you do if a series of random and incredible events bursts into life and pushes you off course?

How to get out of the vicious circle of failures?

The world, with its iron logic and mathematical precision, sometimes throws us inadequate tasks and unpleasant surprises. But petty problem in the morning almost always turns into a bunch of trouble during the day, and only we ourselves are to blame for the formation of this snowball. So you go around in trouble in a circle, like a pony in a circus. What to do if you are not lucky?

Anticipate Problems

The morning gathering for work or study is so chaotic for the majority that troubles happen with natural constancy. Pantyhose are torn, you can't find the right thing, the keys are missing somewhere, the lock is stuck again, I forgot my umbrella, I missed the bus and ... is it familiar? You create these troubles yourself, and it is in your power to eliminate them.

Stop worrying and feeling sorry for yourself

The damage from a punctured tire or lack of water in the tap in the morning is not as great as from a completely ruined mood, which attracts the next dirty trick in life. You just relax, take a breath and find some plus in the situation. A punctured wheel can lead to pleasant acquaintance on the road, and the absence of water in the tap will teach you how to make a minimum supply of it.

Reconsider your attitude: not a nuisance, but a hint of fate

People always pay attention to signs, but do not want to notice the obvious hints of life on a daily basis. Maybe this trouble will make you reconsider today's plans or postpone something until better times.

Take trouble with a smile

A sense of humor and an appropriate display of ingenuity will help you not only survive another surprise, but also develop strong immunity for a good mood.

Stop complaining to others

This advice will benefit not only you, but also your friends who are tired of this "eternal whining." It will be much more useful to hear what good happened to them than to throw out your bucket negative emotions. Experiment, do not complain to anyone for a week, and when communicating, try to sincerely rejoice at other people's good news, trying on success for yourself.

Celebrate the end of a bad day

Finally got home and can take a break from the problems. Treat yourself to something tasty, take a hot relaxing bath and just think, analyze today. Most likely, not everything was against you today, maybe it was your nervous mood that turned the day around. Tomorrow everything will be different.

Learn from every failure and don't try to fix the problem in the heat of the moment. A bad day will end, and with a sober head, you will look at the situation differently. You can always find a way out.

What to do if you are not lucky: we eliminate errors

Permanent losers are rare, as luck is familiar to everyone. But total bad luck for several months just makes you forget that it was once different. Bad luck in your career, finances, in your personal life and in daily affairs is an occasion to think about what you are doing wrong.

Cause	Advice
Fear and uncertainty	Think, calculate the options, weigh everything and take a step forward. Self-confidence also does not attract luck, but an adequate assessment of your strengths will help you.
Lack of experience	The monotony of life teaches nothing, so any trouble becomes a global catastrophe, and after all, someone has already overcome it before you. It’s never too late to learn and the ability to notice the “same rake” from afar will save you from a new bump.
Not being able to communicate with people	Psychology human communication implies mutual interests and respect. Learn to listen and hear others, expand your circle of interests, develop as a person.
Laziness	If you want to win the lottery - buy a ticket, if you want something from life, then act.
Lack of goals	Dream, set the bar higher. Let all your actions be stepping stones on the way to the main goal.
Not being able to be happy	Rejoice in your every success, even if the result is lower than you expected. Love yourself and be able to accept praise as an assessment of your work.
Not being able to lose	Don't overestimate failures. Take failure as a reason to improve, as a starting point for a new path.
Pessimistic attitude	Tune in just for positive thinking and remember that thoughts materialize.

Believe that after failure, a successful streak of life will surely come. But do not strive for luck, because it is fickle and unpredictable. Strive for control, for endurance and self-control in any situation, and stubbornness on the way to your cherished goal will bring you both life experience and the necessary skills for a successful life.

Why is the question not resolved, the need is not satisfied, the expectations are not justified, and the efforts were in vain? Some people look for reasons in the outside world, blaming the environment and circumstances for their troubles, while others blame themselves, hanging the label "loser in life."

Both in the old days and today, luck is perceived by many people as a random positive event, a desired outcome of a situation that does not depend on one's own actions or decisions. That is why people have come up with and continue to invent amulets, talismans, amulets, rituals in order to attract good luck. But is luck so random and are only special magic symbols capable of attracting it?

The question of what determines luck and luck is controversial and philosophical. The answer to it depends on the worldview, religious beliefs and human experience.

People's opinions vary greatly: from the belief that everything in life depends on the individual himself to confidence in subordination and dependence on higher powers. Perhaps the truth is in the middle, but as long as human nature and the entire universe are not fully understood, it is difficult to assert with certainty about the phenomenon of luck.

Luck is a relative concept. Two people see and understand the same phenomenon differently, since perception is selective and indirect. Psychologists say that the external world for the subject is the way he sees and understands it.

In general, the psyche is a form of active reflection objective reality. The outer world depends on the inner and vice versa. A person can choose how and what to think and how to behave.

One and the same event can be seen as luck and failure at the same time, it all depends on the attitude towards it. Luck is a positively perceived phenomenon, that is, an event that is seen as positive.

The problem “I am a loser” is psychological, as it lies in the sphere of perception and attitude towards oneself as a person. A person who admits that he is constantly unlucky should try to find the causes of bad luck in himself, in his usual behavior and thinking, and not complain about bad luck and a hard lot.

Reasons for failure

Those people who feel powerless in the face of urgent problems and think that they cannot change their lives for the better on their own want to return their luck.

When an individual turns to a psychologist (or psychology) with the problem of “loser in life”, it is not always possible to identify the cause of total bad luck right away, sometimes it is a whole complex of psychological difficulties.

Any problematic personality trait or behavior can be the cause of chronic bad luck. For example, such "harmless" personality traits as timidity and shyness can lead to the fact that a person is unlucky in his personal life; low self-esteem and fears lead to failures at work; laziness and lack of motivation prevent you from studying well, and so on.

A few answers to the question "Why am I a loser?":

Self-doubt, low self-esteem, inferiority complex

All these and other similar problems with self-perception and self-concept lead to the fact that a person initially has a set to fail or avoid failure (which is equally wrong), instead of a set to achieve success.

To achieve success, you need to be focused on it. Confident people see opportunities rather than limitations; they perceive personality flaws as an area of work on themselves, and not a reason to diagnose "I'm a loser."

Passive life position, shifting responsibility, laziness, weak will

No wonder in Christianity despondency and idleness are considered mortal sins. Lying on the couch, exclaiming: “Why am I a loser?” Complaining about life is easier than taking responsibility for yourself, leaving your comfort zone, starting to think and act actively.

It is difficult to develop willpower, deliberately take risks and take initiative, but without this there is no personal development and no opportunity to catch luck.

Lack of purpose and sufficient motivation

When a person does not know what to do and what to strive for, life is seen as a series of white and black stripes. When everything goes well, the passive subject calmly "goes with the flow" and calls it luck when the situation does not change in better side, the question arises: "How to return good luck?" and a frantic search for a miraculous ritual for her return.

When there is a sense of purpose and sufficient motivation, the "lucky - unlucky" jackal loses its significance, there is a desire for a goal and "steps" on the way to achieving it.

Unresolved problems, prejudices, thinking errors, fears

Everything that prevents you from living and being happy, as a rule, is the product of past mistakes. When a person is young, he is bold and fearless, initiative and creative. Pervasive stereotypes, painful memories, unforgiven grievances, erroneous conclusions and generalizations lead to the fact that later a person simply does not give himself the opportunity to regain good luck.

Patterned thoughts, rigidity, cowardice, anxiety, suspiciousness, excessive adherence to principles, shyness, modesty are the basis for chronic bad luck. What to do? Let go of negative thoughts, feelings, memories that interfere with life, think broadly, creatively, be the creator of your own destiny.

Many people are unlucky in their personal lives precisely because they limit themselves to the framework of thinking and behavior. For example, a girl had a single negative relationship experience with a man, after which she made a mistake known as overgeneralization and began to have a negative attitude towards all males, thereby depriving herself of the chance to become happy again.

Lack of necessary knowledge, life experience

It is impossible to know and predict in advance everything at once, but you need to strive to learn as much as possible new and useful. Don't treat mistakes as failures, especially when you're young and young age. When making mistakes, you need to draw conclusions, sum up, learn from your mistakes so as not to repeat them.

Developing, learning, acquiring new skills, skills, experience, it is easier to make the right choice in life, to catch luck by the tail. Self-doubt, fears and other problems that lead to bad luck often arise due to a lack of necessary knowledge and experience.

In this case, it is not difficult to return luck - to learn everything you need to act correctly. In particular, psychological knowledge is one of those that are necessary for every person who wants to be successful.

So, first of all, in order to return good luck, you need to realize that the cause of bad luck is inside the person, and not in the outside world.

How to attract good luck

Lucky and fortunate people are successful, satisfied with their lives, happy. Why is fate favorable to them, and with what “rituals” do they lure good luck?

People offended by life complain with anger and envy: “Why am I a loser, but someone is always lucky?” Instead of thinking about the difference between the thinking of a lucky and a loser.

Some features of the lifestyle and personality of successful people:

healthy sleep and early rise;
doing what you love;
physical activity, sports, health care;
moderation in everything, the absence of bad habits;
camping;
love of reading and learning;
hobby and creativity;
the ability to set goals, think positively and creatively, dream;
communication with successful people;
understanding the need to get out of the comfort zone, to do something new;
decisiveness, activity, developed willpower, purposefulness, endurance, optimism;
responsibility, organization, consistency, commitment;
focus on quality, not quantity;
knowledge of oneself, one's weaknesses and strengths, constant work on oneself;
self confidence.

It is the way of life and the way of thinking that distinguishes the lucky and unlucky people. But before you develop new positive habits, you need to get rid of old negative ones.

For a person who believes in himself, any thing that reminds him that everything is possible will become a talisman of good luck, and not a single amulet or ritual will help a person who is unsure of himself.

British psychologist R. Wiseman has been researching the phenomenon of luck for ten years, working with groups of lucky and unlucky people. In 2003, his book entitled "The Luck Factor" was published, which contains the results of many years of work.

R. Wiseman came to the conclusion that one can learn to be lucky and proved it experimentally.

Success and failure depend on the way of life and habits of people.
In order to become successful, you need to learn four main rules:
Listen to intuition, inner voice, trust instincts.
Be open to everything new, avoid boredom and routine.
Every day, spend a few minutes only with good thoughts and memories.
Visualize yourself as a lucky person and the successful outcome of a particular event.

Permanent luck is hardly possible, but lucky people differ from unlucky people in their attitude to failure:

able to see the positive side in any situation;
sure that luck will still be on their side, adhere to the rule: “everything that happens is for the better”;
do not dwell on troubles;
take constructive steps to prevent future failures.

Luck can be both expected and unexpected. Lucky people in any circumstances are looking for a happy occasion, they are ready to let good luck into life.

Lucky people are sociable and observant, while unlucky people have blinders in their eyes, they orient themselves worse in a real situation, miss opportunities and chances, and therefore they think that luck is elusive.

Luck is a combination psychological readiness to it and its objective possibility. Lucky people aren't born, they're made!

What to do if you are unlucky in life, love, work? How to get rid of the role of "loser" and finally achieve success?

As one of the wise said, success is as intolerant of bad luck as bad luck is of someone else's success. Why the most unfortunate people in the world are those who literally have everything falling out of their hands. After all, while they are trying to understand what is the matter and licking their own wounds, the happier lucky ones jump over them in no time and get their prize. But you don’t need to hate them for it - it’s better to learn something.

After all human psychology is such that we are accustomed to confidently believe that the success of others is pure water luck, but his own certainly got exceptionally hard work. In the same way as pathological bad luck and black streaks in the lives of other people seem to be a well-deserved punishment and a natural consequence, but your own mistakes can only be due to damage or deceit of enemies.

And let's look at the problem of "why am I always unlucky in love, at work and in life" from the other side.

Chronophages and their accomplices

There are 24 hours in a day. We allocate only 8-9 for sleep, and let another 5 for our natural needs, like food, for example. There are about 10 hours of personal free time left. What do we do with it? Are we using this resource rationally? Do you know about time management?

Remember only one thing - if in your vocabulary there is still such a thing as "killing time", you will never succeed.

Because time is a very valuable resource, sometimes much more valuable than even money. After all, money can be earned in unlimited quantity: hit the jackpot, for example, marry a millionaire or, at worst, rob a bank. But the allotted time to get more will not work. That's why American business psychologists are very fond of describing this resource as follows: imagine that every morning in the bank 86,400 dollars are deposited into your account (that's how many seconds in a day). And until the next morning, the balance on this account is canceled, no matter how much. And there is no guarantee that this amount will be in the same place tomorrow morning. How much money would you use from this account in a useful way today?

That is why the "chronophage" for a successful businessman is one of the most insidious phenomena. What it is? It is the people, things and habits that steal time. This is a chatty friend who definitely needs to drop into the office and retell yesterday's reality show for an hour, this is a girlfriend who is always late for an appointment, this is a personal transport that loves to break down at the most inconvenient time. And finally, the chronic habit of postponing everything until later, which is slowly stealing "today" from us. And tomorrow a person will be surprised: “Why am I not lucky either in love, or with men, or at work?” ...

Do you want to be successful? Don't waste a minute! Learn English in the car, read good educational books on the subway, chat with a chatty friend only on the way somewhere, organize personal time and try to live every day as if it were your last.

Life scenario "No to happiness!"

Sometimes we ourselves set ourselves the goal of living a half-life, in the style of a "loser", as Americans like to say. Of course, unconsciously. This happens when such words are heard in the family from the very birth of the child: “Well, the Petrovs bought an apartment for their daughter, and a car for their son. And we will always be poor, and our children will be poor, and grandchildren! Because life is like this”, “I look today, Ivanova went to work - so happy, in a new fur coat. And we will always get sick, and work for medicines, because the standard of living in the country is like that! And the growing child himself constantly hears how he is clumsy, stupid and "all like a drunk daddy."

It is not surprising that in adulthood such a person will be content with a mediocre position, low wages and unpleasant friends. And from all the luring networkers on the principle: "We will make you a millionaire!" he will shy away like a rattlesnake.

How to change it? Convince yourself. Surround with loving and supportive people, and drive all critics and whiners down the drain.

"Man is not looking for luck, luck is looking for a man." Turkish proverb

And finally: read these bad tips, smile and never do that again.

Step 1. Set a goal to please everyone

That's really a failure of this undertaking, most likely, there is none at all. Although because it is impossible! There will always be those who are dissatisfied, but the attempt to please everyone has never been respected. Where better to follow the example of modern marketers - choose your target audience (target audience). And already do everything in order to win her favor - whether with creativity, a product sold or leadership.

Step 2 Work day and night

Oddly enough, workaholics do not achieve much success. But natural lazy people (in the reasonable sense of the word) are just more likely to be lucky. Agree, it's not so important how many hours were spent on a new project - the result is important. How important is not participation, but victory.

Yes and chronic fatigue, lack of sleep and exhaustion will not bring happiness or satisfaction from good luck.

Step 3 Say "Yes" to everyone!

Truly successful people always know who, what and when to say “No!”. They say "No!" to all those who:

trying to simply use them;
frankly infuriates them and tries to feed on their energy;
inspires doubt and own pessimism.

And also all those who succeed through their own work say “No!” every morning. their weakness, laziness, fear and insecurity.

"Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm." Winston Churchill

Step 4 Cherish yourself, pity yourself and whine more

Unfortunately, fortune cannot beg for happiness with pity. She does not like whiners, just as others do not like them. No, she prefers selflessness, courage and determination. She loves hard workers and dreamers. But if you cherish yourself and be afraid of everything, then you can stay in the chrysalis phase forever.

Step 5 Become a miser - no charity!

Now we will surprise you very much - every single millionaire in the world is incredibly generous. They constantly donate huge sums for the poor and to various funds, finance the culture of their native country and are always responsive when they are asked for something. And - incredible! - they only get richer. Because all of them, who do not ask, believe that any of their donations will return to them a hundredfold. Moreover, it doesn’t matter for them who does it - the Universe, God or some kind of Higher power - the main thing is that this law of good always works. Try it!

And, no matter how hard it is for you, no matter how often the question arises: “Why are you unlucky in love, at work and in life?” - fight. Maybe this is your path?

"Always choose the most difficult path - on it you will not meet competitors" Charles de Gaulle.

Psychologist Anna Vadimova for the f-Journal.Ru website

V modern world far from all people manage to get settled in life in such a way that they do not need anything and live happily ever after. The greater part suffers from a lack of funds, attention, love, amenities and other things. What to do if you are not lucky, you will learn by reading this publication to the end. In it you will find not only reasoning on the topic of luck, but also practical recommendations that can significantly improve your life.

The article, entitled "What to do if you're not lucky", appeared thanks to the message of one of the readers of the site "Advise!". To understand what it is about, read it:

Good day! What to do if failures constantly pour in during the year, mainly about money. Maybe something is wrong with me!? Thank you in advance.

Causes of Trouble

Unfavorable fate is the main reason why you are constantly unlucky. What to do in this case? Most astrologers agree that you cannot change your life. It is believed that everything that is given from above is a kind of standard that permeates a person through and through and affects her behavior and the events in which she falls. However, experienced Feng Shui masters easily manipulate their destinies and those that are "registered" by their clients.

Wrong choices and stupid actions are the second aspect due to which many are unlucky. What to do if you can’t think correctly and act not to the detriment of yourself? This is where self-control is needed. People choose what is harmful to them and badly affects their lives, because they are subject to the influence of all the same forces that keep the program of fate in balance. If you act thoughtlessly, then everything will happen as "as laid down by heaven" or even worse.

The belief that you are unlucky is also one of the contributing factors to unpleasant situations and problems. What to do when you are convinced that you are unsuccessful? Of course, you need to start convincing yourself of the opposite. This is very difficult, however, it completely eliminates the wrong mood and false attitudes of the psyche.

How to get lucky?

In this part of the publication, I will tell you what you need to do to be lucky. Let's start, perhaps, with the origins of all failures - fate. Its twists and turns can be greatly softened and completely changed the course of events if you study feng shui and then practice it. I myself suffered from all sorts of problems until I became seriously interested in feng shui.

Now I don't ask what to do if I'm not lucky. After all, my life has become completely different. There are no unpleasant moments, suffering, lack, failures and other "not ..." in it. To experience the first positive changes in your life, make small changes in the house, focusing on your number of gua. You can calculate it if you use a special instruction.

What should be done to be lucky when the number of gua has already been determined? It is necessary to read from which parts of the world favorable energy comes to you, and from which negative. You are probably in this moment bad luck simply because you are sleeping with your head in the direction of "total collapse". Place the head of the bed in the direction of your best source qi" and you will become much luckier. Life will immediately change, and the negative attitude will completely disappear.

To always be lucky, people who study feng shui know what to do. One of the rules of this unconventional science is that all favorable directions of the world supply creature creative energy. And the negative ones are the opposite. In your best directions, you need to sleep with your head and turn your face. For example, if you work at your desk or watch TV in the direction of the "heavenly doctor", then your health will improve significantly. And by turning in the direction of "harmony in marriage", you can find your soulmate or improve real relationships. "Personal Development" - allows you to find a high-paying job, pass exams successfully and start your own business.

How to become a lucky person?

In the previous paragraph, practical recommendations were given to actually get rid of the problems that have become familiar to you. Now let's discuss how to set yourself up so that you no longer think about what to do if you're not lucky. As mentioned above in this article, the flow of favorable energy helps to change the negative attitude. Feng Shui helps to figure out where it comes from and find your way around the room. Therefore, the very first step is to follow the recommendations given in the previous part of the publication.

Then think about how to become a lucky and successful person. This idea needs to be carefully considered. To do this, drink hot sweet cocoa, wrap yourself in your favorite blanket, lie down on your bed or on the sofa, relax and think. Surely thoughts will begin to arise in your head about how you can become a more successful person. Don't think about what to do when you're out of luck. You need to think about ways to achieve what you need. If you can't think of anything, then repeat this exercise every day until you start to have a lot of interesting and inspiring ideas.

Many women think about how to become successful and happy, including the author of the message, thanks to which this publication was written. But they do not think at all that it is necessary to represent the way to achieve the desired. Most of the non-traditional teachings suggest focusing on the result. At the same time, it is believed that the universe will respond and itself will find ways to achieve the desired person. However, no one succeeded in achieving their goals according to this scheme. You should plan your path. And it doesn't matter if you want to get from one part of the city to another or if you want to find your happiness, vocation, stability.

Do you often wonder - what to do if you are not lucky? Give it up, forget about it. Think correctly, for example - how to achieve prosperity in a thousand dollars a month. What thoughts do you have? I'm sure you immediately began to think about where you can earn extra money. This is already correct thinking, which leads to security. Do you wish to find happiness? Also put in front of you the right questions and you will find the solutions you need.

How to become a successful person in life?

Now it's time to respond to the woman's message, which is given in the second paragraph of this article. She asks - what to do if you are not lucky, believing that something is wrong with her. In fact, the reasons lie not only in a person's perception of his life, environment and events, but for the most part in fate. To soften its blows, you need to get rid of the conviction of your own inferiority. You should learn to value yourself, you need to find dignity in yourself and your actions.

For example, after another failure, you do not need to think about what to do if you are not lucky, but you should first react calmly, as if nothing had happened. Consciousness will not concentrate on this event, and therefore will not provoke new unpleasant moments. And when you did something very well, for example, washed the floor, you need to mentally praise yourself for this act. Don't forget to shower yourself with laurels for the deliciously cooked borscht. So, consciousness learns to look for the best in everyday life and then creates events that you concentrate on.

From all this it follows that in order to become a successful and successful person, you need to think positively about yourself, about your life and praise yourself for a good deed, for every correct and useful action. So, a habit is developed - to experience the pleasure of life, and when it takes root, everyday life will change for the better by itself. And then it will no longer be necessary to think about what to do if you are not lucky.

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Problems and failures burden our life, making it hopeless. All troubles originate at the energy level. Knowing the reasons for their appearance, you can easily get rid of the streak of bad luck.

There is an opinion that if you are not lucky in one, then you will definitely be lucky in something else. However, inveterate optimism is becoming rarer every day. For most people, one failure leads to another. This is directly related to energy: like attracts like. The person who possesses negative energy attracts misfortune, and vice versa. Therefore, it is necessary to start changing your life for the better from yourself.

Signs of bad luck

This phenomenon is of interest to esotericists, psychologists and philosophers. The minds of modern times have classified the main signs of lack of luck in people. These manifestations trigger the mechanisms of bad luck and contribute to the appearance of a black band. First of all, the following symptoms should be eradicated.

Disappointment. A person is haunted by a feeling of hopelessness, devastation, the inability to change his life. The loss of faith leads to an overestimation of one's capabilities and the inaccessibility of goals.

Aggression and insecurity. A person prone to failure seeks to let off steam on other people or to assert himself at the expense of other people's troubles.

Loneliness and resentment for the whole world. Chronic bad luck can be due to low self-esteem, reclusiveness, and jealousy. In this case, a person, as a rule, blames others for his own troubles.

Devastation. The loss of the joy of life entails the absence of new positive changes. Even in moments of joy, a person thinks about a possible failure.

Causes of failure and trouble

The reasons for our bad luck are due to energy factors. The whole world is permeated with energy flows, and we are guests in it, who must learn to live according to the laws of the Universe. The school of life is connected with awareness external factors and spiritual growth. A person who refuses his own destiny and does not want to learn is obviously doomed to bad luck.

We need to learn to live in harmony, cooperation, mutual assistance, having eradicated opposition, greed, and anger in ourselves. The reason for bad luck is often our erroneous views, priorities and desires that are not aligned with the world at the energy level. Misfortune in most cases pursues those people who oppose the universe. A person who does not notice his mistakes subsequently pays for them threefold. Life will get worse until the person takes the path of development and reassessment of their priorities.

However, negative events in our lives can be caused by negative external influences. From the moment of birth, a person is subject to energy influence, which can be both positive and destructive. The latter includes witchcraft, black magic, evil eye, corruption, envy of people, negative events and news. Even horror films have a destructive power.

That is why you should create a protective cover for your soul with the help of meditation, yoga, reading mantras. Opening the chakras, spiritual practices and getting rid of energy blocks will have a positive impact on life in general, strengthening your aura.

A strong biofield, positive thoughts and faith in the best will help you break out of the vicious circle of failures. Luck is familiar to everyone, but total bad luck is a sign that you need to think about own life. A series of failures does not haunt people who have found their true path and are moving towards happiness. We wish you to find yourself, get rid of troubles and win new victories every day. Be happy, success and don't forget to press the buttons and

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Why are you unlucky in life? And you don't live your life

Well, why not lucky in life!? happens, we think. Or, more often: Why am I unlucky in life? - implying that, behold, others are lucky (fools).

And, often, we point to those who, in our opinion, are lucky. Well, of course, undeservedly - who would doubt it?

Let's do this: let's leave all this chatter, like that someone is lucky because he was born that way - under a lucky star.

And someone, they say, is written in the family: sorry, climb into the shit, even if this is the only pile per square kilometer.

All this, of course, is not so: life does not give birth to the chosen ones of fate and the damned. All these are grandmother's tales and theories of gypsies, you yourself know why.

Nevertheless, everyone, at least sometimes in life, observes: someone is “rushing” in life, and someone is “eternal bad luck”.

Well, in fact, not because of the same as the newly-minted psychologists write: One is set to win, and the other to lose, - they say, thoughts materialize.

What is it to them, psychologists? - crowed his "theory", and people believe in fairy tales.

They will, later, materialize their thoughts as much as they want, having completed paid guru courses.

The main thing for them is to believe that they are lucky in life or, better, that they are lucky. Even, excuse me, when the wife left, there was nothing to eat, and he was left without a job.

Why are some people unlucky in life, others are lucky? The fact remains that some live well, while others do not.

And the efforts in life, those who are unlucky, spent no less, and often more. Yes, and, it seems, they deserve more luck than THESE - they already "have nowhere to put it."

Let's figure out why you are not lucky in life?

Why are you unlucky in life? Are you living your life?

But look what happens in the lives of most people: they literally become hostages of circumstances and other people. How does this happen?

All people are born with THEIR desires. Those of them, desires, which begin to be realized, turn into their interests.

Until the beginning of adulthood, most of us steadfastly maintain, no, not illusions through rose-colored glasses, that these desires will certainly come true. And keep their desires and interests.

That is, if you look at the essence, then, before adult independent life spun in the whirlpool of life, people remain THEMSELVES.

And their selfhood, just, is the presence of their desires and interests.

Of course, this seems to look like a paradox, but it looks, not is:

- yes, a person is not yet mature - he does not really know what he wants and what interests him;

- but, he has his own desires, albeit vague, and, most importantly, he is determined and is going to live according to them - to live his life, "as I want and as I can."

Why unlucky in life - the whirlpool of life dragged on

This pressure is so powerful that it sucks many people in, drags them on for life: EVERYTHING - a person has ceased to live his life - he has lost his desires and interests.

And what, then, does he live? And, in addition, as a rule, he thinks and is tormented by the question: Why are you unlucky in life?

And by the interests of the whirlpool of life in which he is: he lives for others and for another, gradually forgetting his personal interests, desires.

And he begins to wonder: Why are you unlucky in life?

Examples when a person does not live his own life and is concerned about why he is unlucky in life

Specifically? Well, for example:

- A woman, having become a wife and mother, begins to live, fulfilling the desires of her husband and children, and, literally, to live for them - their life.

And if she goes to work, then she lives, moreover, in the interests of her "uncle": You give the plan to the owner's pocket and for the motherland!

- A man, not even burdened with a family, spins in his whirlpool of life: money, women, friends - everyone needs everything from him. And everyone needs it as long as something can be taken from it.

That is, look around, at people and at yourself: Do you live your own life? Generally and every day, in particular.

When, the last time, you did something, precisely because ONLY you want it and ONLY you need it. When did you live your life?

And those who live their lives, who are they? These are those who remained true to their desires and interests.

No, do not think that they are lucky and lucky in life.

It is their life that hits them the most: Oh, don't you want to live like everyone else, do you want to live your own way? - well, so - get it!

Moreover, they also spin in the whirlpool of life, like everyone else, not at all being hyper egoists, as someone might have thought.

They spin, but do not accept and cannot accept this life: This is not mine - I do not want and cannot live like this!

And stubbornly and hard they build their life until they build it or perish.

And, if they operate with such concepts as lucky or unlucky in life, then only by the way, in order to keep up the conversation or speak in a language that someone understands.

In fact, they know or feel: it's not about luck, but you have to go your own way.

Fall, if unlucky in life, get up and go again. For the only luck in life is YOUR life itself.

Unlucky in life, because not your own life

But look, now: if you do not live your life - not your life - not for the sake of your desires and interests, then how, in principle, can you be lucky?

The logic, after all, is simple to disgrace: If there is no life, then there is no luck either.

Lucky in life or unlucky in life - contributes to life or does not contribute to the good in it, only to those who live their lives.

And whoever does not have his own life, so, he, and neither luck nor bad luck, in principle, can not be. He is simply a sliver in the whirlpool of other people's lives and circumstances.

Well, like this, just imagine: a person goes his own way of life. Circumstances and other people can help or hinder him in this - he can be lucky or unlucky in life.

And here is another person, spinning in a whirlpool of other people's lives and other people's circumstances of life. Where can be, here, his luck or bad luck?

Only, as "remnants from the master's table"? Or in the form of the joy of a crowd participant at someone else's "celebration of life"?

And if it's easier, then:

Gamblers are lucky in cards, bankers are lucky in money, lovers are lucky in love, fools are lucky in everything. For, each in his own business - each lives his own life.

And why are those who suffer unlucky in life: What am I doing here, in this life? He suffers, but continues to live this - someone else's life. Here, he is not lucky in it.

This is the answer: Why are you unlucky in life.

I'm unlucky in life - this is not a state, but a feeling

And one more thing: here, you had to observe the picture: people in the same situations, but, the reaction to it is different. One happy: I'm lucky! - another, sour: Why am I again unlucky in life?

The conversation, here, is not even about envy, although, of course, it often takes place in a situation of luck or bad luck in life.

It's about how they treat different people differently to life.

For example: one considers that he was lucky when he found out that "a neighbor's cow died."

And the one whose cow died may say: I was lucky that the cow died, and everyone else, including the neighbor, is alive and well.

That is, when and why you are unlucky in life, this is not a state, but a feeling of a person.

And, in fact, a normal, moral person can experience a feeling of his bad luck only if he is “very unlucky” - some dramas, tragedies have occurred in his life.

And the rest is everything, for him: "little things in life."

And, excuse me, whining about: Why is unlucky in life - only a person can, who, moreover, does not live his life - not according to his desires and interests. But also immoral.

For, his luck, like every person, was: to appear in this world healthy, with intelligence, and with the freedom to choose his possible life.

So, who, excuse me, is to blame for getting into a life that is not his own, and now he is constantly unlucky?

That is, objectively, ALL people are equally lucky in life, and unlucky in life.

Lately I have received several emails asking about luck and bad luck, here is one of them: Hello! I am very unlucky, in life everything constantly collapses and breaks. Moreover, as soon as something is getting better, literally immediately something bad begins to happen. I constantly lose everything good: a job, a loved one left, my health deteriorates, something regularly shoots, I won’t get out of hospitals, although I’m only 35. Why am I so unlucky? Please help me find the answer and tell me what should I do? Thanks in advance, Alexandra.

I have already written in more than one article - there is always a reason for everything that happens to you in life! Is always! And, in fact, to solve this problem, you need to solve two problems:

Find and understand the root cause of the troubles that happen to you. There may be several reasons, by the way, but there is always the main one.
Remove those reasons. And this means changing in a certain way, which involves a lot of work on yourself.

But, far from always the reason will be obvious, for most people it is not so easy to understand it. And most of the time without help. a good specialist(healer or coach), it will be difficult to find the cause and remove it. But that doesn't mean it's impossible. For this, I am writing this article, so that you can begin to analyze your life and change in yourself and in it what does not suit you.

Consider the main, most common, but not obvious to most reasons why a person becomes unlucky in life.

I'm unlucky! Esoteric (spiritual) reasons:

In fact, in fact, we have already considered and described these reasons in detail in the article - Therefore, you may well follow the link and start working on the article. And despite this, we will still list the main reasons for bad luck and add something important.

Why am I so unlucky in life? Main reasons:

1. Loss of patronage of the Higher Forces when, in fact, God stops helping a person, removes his protection and patronage from him. This happens when a person is very wrong in life in some way, or because of some serious misconduct.

Everyone must have heard such a wish “That the Gods loved you”, or when a person is called the favorite of the Gods. It's not easy. This means that the Higher Powers patronize a person, and They never patronize just like that.

Therefore, in order to return luck, you need to “return”, or rather, “deserve” the Protection of the Higher Forces.

2. Refusal of a person from his destiny(from) - from their own, from their talents, etc. In fact, the rejection of one's goals is a rejection of oneself, of one's destiny, of one's soul.

When a person gave up on himself, abandoned his goals, or exchanged for something petty, out of stupidity, out of cowardice, out of greed - he loses the support of the Universe, his Soul (it begins to suffer, loses strength), and he too often loses.

3. A committed crime, a serious sin, a misdemeanor. When a person commits a great evil, he falls under the influence of an even greater evil. It can be a big deceit, theft, treason, etc.

If a person does not realize and does not recognize the perfect evil, does not repent for his sin, this will have an increasingly worse effect on his life in the future.

For understanding read -

4. Negative and. It often happens that the Higher Powers would be happy to help a person, but he does not accept Their help. He believes that he is bad and does not deserve anything good in life.

Such a person, first of all, needs to take care of himself: remove the negative attitude towards himself and form (respect for himself) in order to gladly accept all the opportunities provided by life and gratefully accept the help of the Universe.

Remember that very often, in order to become a Lucky Person, you need to truly love.

How to learn to love yourself - b.

5. Negative thinking, ! Often this is a negative worldview formed from childhood, when a person is not able to believe in anything good. He is used to seeing only the bad in the world around him and believing that everything will be bad for him.

Such a person lives and looks at everything through sunglasses. The task is to take off these glasses and learn to see the world and life as they are, to see both everything good (protecting it) and everything bad (getting rid of it).

How to deal with unbelief.

6. A person is not fully formed, just as he does not develop, he does not grow above himself. It often happens that as soon as a person begins to develop, work on himself, he literally immediately turns from an unlucky person into a lucky one, and a lot of things immediately begin to work out for him, dreams come true, goals are achieved.

What does it mean to be unlucky in life? Each specific person has his own ideas about luck, his own criteria for luck. What one would consider a success, another would perceive as a failure. There are people who see the reasons for their bad luck solely in themselves.

There are people who blame the whole world for their failures, but not themselves..

People who look for the causes of bad luck in themselves, in my opinion, are closer to the truth than those who blame other people, government, reforms, globalization, crisis for their mistakes. And this is true for the simple reason that it is much easier for us to influence our inner world than to influence the behavior of the government, the president, or the course of the global economic crisis.

On the other hand, it is difficult to disagree with the fact that there are also objective reasons that do not allow us to get what we want. For example, the fact that we live in Russia prevents many of us from getting what is available to people in Europe and America. The standard of living in these countries is much higher than ours. And this is an objective limitation. But on the other hand, this is not a reason to give up. The West inspires with its achievements and creations. I don’t see such vivid examples of luck, abundance and creative thought anywhere else.

The main reasons for unlucky life:

Lack of awareness and erudition, insufficient knowledge of life, its misunderstanding.

When we study subjects at school, for some reason we see them as something unrelated. Well, what connection can there be between chemistry and geography, between literature and psychology, between physics and economics? The school, it seems to me, cannot give a growing person a holistic picture of the world, life. Perhaps due to lack of time and the colossal volume teaching materials. Perhaps the very structure of education does not allow creating such a complete picture. Perhaps this is state policy ... A man came to life after school, but in his head everything is shredded. And we still need to spend a lot of time and effort to somehow sew these shreds into a single picture, in order to compare it with reality, to find erroneous judgments and dubious statements in this canvas. The acquisition of life experience and constant self-education will help to remove this barrier to success.

Psychological illiteracy, psychological ignorance.

Actions under the influence of programs and scenarios inspired in childhood. Ignorance of oneself, inability to build relationships, inability to deal with one's feelings and emotions ... The list can be continued indefinitely, since human psychology is a very extensive thing. Most of us don't even realize that we live like blind kittens. "You don't even know what you don't know!" an assistant professor at the university once told us. In Russia, this is the number one problem - psychological illiteracy. Psychological maturity, as a rule, is accompanied by success in many areas of life.

Elemental laziness.

Psychologists, marketers, fitness experts do not get tired of repeating: "Man is a very lazy creature." I must say that not any inaction can be called laziness. Sometimes a person does not act for other reasons, such as making an important decision. This can happen subconsciously and can be extended over time.

Laziness is the most dangerous and insidious enemy of man, because he is fluent in the art of mimicry (to take the form of any other object or phenomenon). The ability to recognize laziness in time and the ability to take adequate measures is one of the most important skills in life. The absence of actions that are clearly necessary, the absence of actions without objective reasons (external or internal) - this is what laziness is. No outsider can determine whether a person is lazy now, or if he has reasons not to act. We can only recognize laziness in ourselves. And we can only eliminate it ourselves, without outside help.

Spiritual immaturity, lack of spirituality.

Inability to see and appreciate the beauty of life, unwillingness to recognize its highest value, the value of every moment. There are no comments at all. How many smiling faces have you seen in the morning, when the sun is so clear, the sky so blue, and the air is fresh, as if it had just been brought from the sea? It's incredible, but you won't find such faces! What morning, what stars? We have problems here, and he with his stars and fresh air! But such neglect of simple joys, seemingly not related to questions of spirituality, is lack of spirituality. Life is made up of small pleasures. It is worth looking back at your life, and you can notice a lot more success, if you take into account small achievements. Great joys also happen, but those who do not notice the small, most likely will not be ready for the big.

Weak logical thinking.

Inability to ask questions and seek reasonable answers to them. Inability to question oneself and others. Why do we give diplomas to people who have not learned to think? After all, logic is the science of laws and forms of thinking. I didn’t study logic, which means I’m not educated. What does it mean in life? A few misconceptions and you're out of luck. (One awkward move and you are the father! The father of failure.)

Inability to paradoxical thinking.

Paradoxical thinking is the ability to combine things in your head that seem incompatible. By the way, for physicists this is the most common thing. But for most other people, the thing is simply incomprehensible. Tell me, is an electron a particle or a wave? Is life discrete or continuous? Do not know? Take an interest in experience with electron diffraction. Leads to many thoughts. Here's another clue: wave-particle duality. Do not believe in fairy tales and black holes? You are worse off! You have to be more flexible. Sometimes it is useful to put your intellect on such a twine ...

Cowardice, indecision, lack of self-confidence, insecurity, modesty, sucked from the finger.

Sometimes courage means more than intelligence and knowledge. False modesty openly interferes with the lives of millions. What does it mean to be brave? Confident? I advise you to read about modesty in Philip Zimbardo.

Inability to go all out, seriously.

Many try and try instead of doing. An attempt to do something serious is doomed to failure if you don’t set yourself up to achieve the desired result from the very beginning - this is a classic. To tune in means to be imbued with your goal deeply and sincerely. Start to feel for her feelings and emotions. This emotional charge will do its job - it will realize what was planned.

Poor health.

Unwillingness to keep your body in good shape, and muscles in motion. People vary greatly in performance. Some manage to do amazingly much for a very long time. a short time. Health is one of the key limiting factors in any successful business.

Low motivation as a result of low awareness of life.

We don't know what we want. And if we want something, we don't know why. Working with your goals, awakening your sincere and deep needs, energizing successful people - these are the steps to overcome this barrier.

Freebie love.

Another trouble for Russia. The habit of getting something without cost and effort does us a disservice. When the matter requires straining, making efforts, moving our brains, we are surprised and ... retreat. I never get tired of repeating that what is real and durable in life always requires effort, time and some material investments. It is a fact. Nothing is given away.

Fear of freedom.

Having barely acquired freedom, we are looking for someone to hand it over. Yes, freedom scares us. This is what you need to take responsibility for making decisions about your life yourself. Yes, historically it so happened that we are afraid of freedom like fire. But, gentlemen, now is a different time. It's time to break with tradition. If the old begins to weigh, we must abandon it.

Fear of being different.

For some reason, we are still afraid to stand out. We are afraid of publicity, we are afraid of disclosure. Look at how many blogs and websites you can find photos of their owners? This speaks volumes. Showing your face is already standing out, because a person’s face is unique. To be like everyone else, not to stick out - the credo of a loser.

Undeveloped intuition.

Intuition is a quiet inner voice. I know from my own experience that he is really quiet and unobtrusive, like the voice of a caring but wise parent addressed to children. Failure to hear it, the habit of not paying attention to it - this is a direct path to bad luck.

Negative attitude towards your experience.

Have you been fired from your job, citing the crisis? Wonderful! Why not the opportunity to finally go beyond the usual way of thinking and way of life? The wise see in a crisis an opportunity for development and positive change. If one door closes in front of you, it means that another one has opened in another place. And she's waiting for you to come in...

The above in no way claims to be an exhaustive answer to the question posed in the title. However, consider these points, see what is written applies to you.

AND good luck will smile on you!

What does it mean to be unlucky in life? Each specific person has his own ideas about luck, his own criteria for luck. What one would consider a success, another would perceive as a failure.

There are people who see the reasons for their bad luck solely in themselves. There are people who blame the whole world for their failures, but not themselves.

The main reasons for unlucky life:

Lack of awareness and erudition, insufficient knowledge of life, its misunderstanding.
When we study subjects at school, for some reason we see them as something unrelated. Well, what connection can there be between chemistry and geography, between literature and psychology, between physics and economics? The school, it seems to me, cannot give a growing person a holistic picture of the world, life. Perhaps due to lack of time and the colossal volume of training materials. Perhaps the very structure of education does not allow creating such a complete picture. Perhaps this is state policy ... A man came to life after school, but in his head everything is shredded. And we still need to spend a lot of time and effort to somehow sew these shreds into a single picture, in order to compare it with reality, to find erroneous judgments and dubious statements in this canvas. The acquisition of life experience and constant self-education will help to remove this barrier to success.

Psychological illiteracy, psychological ignorance.
Actions under the influence of programs and scenarios inspired in childhood. Ignorance of oneself, inability to build relationships, inability to deal with one's feelings and emotions ... The list can be continued indefinitely, since human psychology is a very extensive thing. Most of us don't even realize that we live like blind kittens. "You don't even know what you don't know!" an assistant professor at the university once told us. In Russia, this is the number one problem - psychological illiteracy. Psychological maturity, as a rule, is accompanied by success in many areas of life.

Elemental laziness.
Psychologists, marketers, fitness experts do not get tired of repeating: "Man is a very lazy creature." I must say that not any inaction can be called laziness. Sometimes a person does not act for other reasons, such as making an important decision. This can happen subconsciously and can be extended over time.

Spiritual immaturity, lack of spirituality.
Inability to see and appreciate the beauty of life, unwillingness to recognize its highest value, the value of every moment. There are no comments at all. How many smiling faces have you seen in the morning, when the sun is so clear, the sky so blue, and the air is fresh, as if it had just been brought from the sea? It's incredible, but you won't find such faces! What morning, what stars? We have problems here, and he with his stars and fresh air!

But such neglect of simple joys, seemingly not related to questions of spirituality, is lack of spirituality. Life is made up of small pleasures. When you look back at your life, you can see a lot more success, if you take into account small achievements. Great joys also happen, but those who do not notice the small, most likely will not be ready for the big.

Weak logical thinking.
Inability to ask questions and seek reasonable answers to them. Inability to question oneself and others. Why do we give diplomas to people who have not learned to think? After all, logic is the science of laws and forms of thought. I didn’t study logic, which means I’m not educated. What does it mean in life? A few misconceptions and you're out of luck. (One awkward move and you are the father! The father of failure.)

Inability to paradoxical thinking.
Paradoxical thinking is the ability to combine things in your head that seem incompatible. By the way, for physicists this is the most common thing. But for most other people, the thing is simply incomprehensible. Tell me, is an electron a particle or a wave? Is life discrete or continuous? Do not know? Take an interest in experience with electron diffraction. Leads to many thoughts. Here's another clue: wave-particle duality. Do not believe in fairy tales and black holes? You are worse off! You have to be more flexible. Sometimes it is useful to put your intellect on such a twine ...

Cowardice, indecision, lack of self-confidence, insecurity, modesty, sucked from the finger.
Sometimes courage means more than intelligence and knowledge. False modesty openly interferes with the lives of millions. What does it mean to be brave? Confident? I advise you to read about modesty in Philip Zimbardo.

Inability to go all out, seriously.
Many try and try instead of make. An attempt to do something serious is doomed to failure if you don’t set yourself up to achieve the desired result from the very beginning - this is a classic. To tune in means to be deeply and sincerely imbued with your goal. Start to feel for her feelings and emotions. This emotional charge will do its job - it will realize what was planned.

Poor health.
Unwillingness to keep your body in good shape, and muscles in motion. People vary greatly in performance. Some people manage to do amazing things in a very short time. Health is one of the key limiting factors in any successful business.

Low motivation as a result of low awareness of life.
We don't know what we want. And if we want something, we don't know why. Working with your goals, awakening your sincere and deep needs, energizing successful people - these are the steps to overcome this barrier.

Freebie love.
Another trouble for Russia. The habit of getting something without cost and effort does us a disservice. When the matter requires straining, making efforts, moving our brains, we are surprised and ... retreat. I never tire of repeating that the present and durable in life always requires effort, time and some material investments. It is a fact. Nothing is given away.

Fear of freedom.
Having barely acquired freedom, we are looking for someone to hand it over. Yes, freedom scares us. What kind of responsibility do you have to take on? make your own decisions about your life. Yes, historically it so happened that we are afraid of freedom like fire. But, gentlemen, now is a different time. It's time to break with tradition. If the old begins to weigh, we must abandon it.

Fear of being different.
For some reason, we are still afraid to stand out. We are afraid of publicity, we are afraid of disclosure. Look at how many blogs and websites you can find photos of their owners? This speaks volumes. Showing your face is already standing out, because a person’s face is unique. To be like everyone else, not to stick out - the credo of a loser.

Undeveloped intuition.
Intuition is a quiet inner voice. I know from my own experience that he is really quiet and unobtrusive, like the voice of a caring but wise parent addressed to children. Failure to hear it, the habit of not paying attention to it is a direct path to bad luck.

Negative attitude towards your experience.
Have you been fired from your job, citing the crisis? Wonderful! Why not the opportunity to finally go beyond the usual way of thinking and way of life? The wise in crisis sees an opportunity for development and positive change. If one door closes in front of you, it means that another one has opened in another place. And she's waiting for you to come in...

The above in no way claims to be an exhaustive answer to the question posed in the title. However, consider these points, see what is written applies to you. And luck will surely smile at you!